As we all know (Well at least I would hope…), being a porn star isn’t your typical or easiest day job… We expose our most intimate relationships and our bodies for none other than the pleasure of our viewers, and don’t get me wrong I LOVE MY JOB, but being that I’m so new, I’m still having to adjust.
On a daily basis I get judged by who I am as a person by what I do for a job and quite frankly I think it’s BULLS%&#!
My job comes with a lot of criticism… From viewers, from blog writers, from fans, friends/family and even from society itself. So along with that comes the pressure of making sure everyone is satisfied or pleased.
No one knows why me or any other PORN STAR has chosen to do porn, or why we need the money and it actually just kinda sucks that these people that don’t even know me other than from what they see on their computer screens, are so quick to judge and stereotype me into this ridiculous image.
FOR EXAMPLE:
1. All PORN STARS are SLUTS and will sleep with ANYONE.
2. All PORN STARS have diseases.
3. All PORN STARS have no Self- Respect and are Stuck Up.
Or my favorite of them all:
4. PORN STARS will never be able to find a BOYFRIEND/GIRLFRIEND that will be able to respect their job.
I’m going to be real for a second… I too have thought each one of those thing’s before starting in this industry and let me say that I stand corrected. I have met some of the hottest models in the industry and they have been exactly the opposite. Like TOMMY DEFENDI, such a total teddy bear, Pierre Fitch such a down to Earth hopeless romantic, and even the Bel Ami boys.
& yes it’s a little harder finding a guy that will respect my job… okay A LOT, but I mean it’s part of the package deal I guess… Because of these stereotypes these guys have already this image as to who I am…
But this is why I started this site, I wanted to make sure my image of who I was NEVER was sacrificed for what I do for work cause realistically the only thing that ever changed since I started in this industry was MY NAME, nothing else.
xoxoxo <3
Max Ryder
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If only you liked females, I’d promise to love you and your job. ;P
I LOVE MY FEMALE FANS!!!
Lol I love boobs <3
MY BOOBS ARE ALL YOURS <3
Well stated Max. An honest day’s work for an honest day’s pay. Be proud, yet humble, of your chosen career, and people will respect you for your character.
I agree the the above comment. If ony you were into girls…
I think why it is hard for a boyfriend because we all have a little bit of jealous that tends to kick in.
I used to date a Playboy Bunny and she used to say you are the one I come home to. She always had to remind me of that.
I wish you well and good luck just be open and make the guy you go home to number one.
Take care Skip
Couldn’t agree more.
The thing that some should realize is that when we do a scene, we don’t usually get to choose the person we do it with and nor do we do the scene with desire.
If i had a boyfriend they would always be my first priority… i’d never have an open relationship because if i’m with someone I like/love there is absolutely no reason why I’d need to look else where for companionship.
My BOYFRIEND WOULD ALWAYS BE NUMBER <3
Well said!!!
I can honestly say I have no less respect for a porn star than someone in ANY other field; in fact, i might have more respect for all the reasons you listed! You continue to commit yourselves to this job DESPITE all the public scrutiny because it is YOUR career, YOUR body, and YOUR choice. You do it for YOUR reasons.
Good for you :) You’re beautiful
p.s. follow me on twitter ;) @oyvey_samuel
thanks for the love and support ;) <3
&& follow me... http://www.twitter.com/maxryderxxx
I do follow you <3 Would love a follow back ;)
Well said MAX… individuality exists everywhere, the definition of you is you not your job, your sexuality or any other bs stereotype that society likes to segment people into.
Glad you agree with me <3
Very well said Max. There will always be people who find fault with others. I admire you guys who do porn and thank you and all the stars for the many hours of entertainment you provide us. I hold you and all the other guys in high regards. Keep up the great work. You’re awesome!
thanks Gary that really means a lot to ALL of us <3
I’m an 18 yr old guy starting out in the industry. Everything that you listed first are things that held me back, but I really need a job with decent income and to be honest part of me likes it. Reading your honest and amazing views kinda, idk- makes me think better of myself (and others in the industry) :D guess I just stopped by to say thanks. Max is a good performer btw. But learning more, whoever you are behind the stage name, seems to be a great guy! Don’t forget it, you’re a cool guy I look up to!
Kevin first off thanks so much it really means a lot that I can be a role model for you! But, just take this advice: NEVER FORGET who you are and just stay motivated. Seriously, whatever you want in life just stay motivated and have drive and you’ll get there!
xx
Totally! Will do. Thanks hun <3
I’m so proud of you!! Every day I work with you I respect you more and more. Folks… Max is the real deal!
Love Always, Jake (Daddy Cockyboys)!
I love you thanks for EVERYTHING! I wouldn’t be who i am today if it wasn’t for you!
I respect to all porn stars include you, and you’re my idol!! I know that this job is not easy as we look from the movies but still many would discriminate porn stars like people around me. I still remember my friends asked me which celebrities I like the most, the answer is not brat pitt or zac efron, the answer i gave is Max Ryder (my favourite porn star!!)
Max I have so much respect for you & anyone that does your job. It takes a strong person to do something that so many people find fault with. Of course these same people are probably getting off to one of your scenes right now. You seem like such a great guy and holy shit are you sexy. I wish for you to have love, happiness, & success. Just remember that for every asshole that has something negative to say about you there are 10 more people that think you are fucking amazing! Thanks in advance for all the entertainment that I know is coming our way :)
Made my day.
Seriously thank you so much! Knowing that I have people like you out there supporting me, makes me want to do bigger and better things for you guys!
I think what you do is great!
I have a great deal of respect and admiration for all pornstars, however I must admit you are the only one that I ‘follow’. I think you’re great! Cant wait to see more shoots and blog posts!!
Agh glad I captured your attention enough for you to give me positive energy and support, REALLY appreciate it! <3 Oh and I promise in the next month you will be seeing a whole new side of me… PROJECT GO GO BOY comes out and my BEL AMI stuff too in August ; )
It’s not so glamorous like everyone think it is!
I wrote this on twitter a few days ago, good for you for writing it. Porn stars are regular people, you just do porn, nothing wrong with you or other porn/adult stars keep doing what your doing max, you are a kind guy :) I like to talk to anyone and I dont’ treat them any differently.
Max, you are a breath of fresh air. It is so nice to follow someone who is very “real.” It makes you even more attractive in my opinion.
I think we all have had those thoughts or judgements, but I always try to remember that everyone should be respected. I have certainly had my share of pornstar crushes (Jesse Santana, Mason Wyler, Brent Everett, and now Max Ryder).
Thanks for sharing this with us. Would enjoy meeting you sometime, and I hope we can become friends.
Woah my name in a sentence with those guys is kinda intimidating lol… But i promise i will do my best not to DISAPPOINT. When i started in this industry i made sure to never let it get to my head. thanks for the support and the positive energy, really makes appreciate my job more and more everyday!
xx
Max Ryder
Max, from the first moments I saw and heard you in an interview, what came through is your dazzling personality, monumental charm, humor, and the articulate voice of one who sees the world honestly and with whimsy. These wonderful characteristics come out in you more than any other similar model or star I have heard. If any of these descriptors resonate with you, then I think you may rest assured that the real you definitely comes through, and it’s delightful.
Jay… this really means a lot to me! Thank you so much for all the positive energy and support! Daddy COCKYBOYS makes sure to keep me in check lol ;)
xx
Max Ryder
@MaxRyderxxx :
“Tomorrow BLOG POSTS being POSTED: 1. Butt waxing with Pierre. 2. My Bel Ami Exp. 3….”
still waiting ;)
You’re soooo beautiful !
I’ve always had so much respect for porn stars… this is absolutely fantastic.
And you. You’re so handsome.
Thank you!
Max,
You have chosen a challenging profession and I wish you the best of luck with your career. So far, I like what I have seen. I expect to be blown away with your future endeavors.
It is encouraging to know that you intend to stay true to yourself. Surround yourself with people who are genuine and have your best interests at heart. The same advice applies to finding a romantic partner. I caution you to be careful and avoid anyone who wants the “Cockyboy Max.” YOU are most important, so make sure they respect the “whole” you.
Had my life followed the path of fantasies I would have been in a committed MMF relationship with one M in your industry. We exist; you will find yours.
“Head up young person.” – Nina, The Object of My Affection (1998)
With extreme fondness,
Jin Reads
@JinReads
1. You are SMOKIIN hot. You seem like you’re funny, totally sweet, really down to earth and like you would make the perfect boyfriend!! If you can’t find a guy to love/respect you for who you are, then i feel like there’s just no hope for the rest of us single gay boys. I’m so sure you will have zero problems finding a great boyfriend who will love you no matter what your career is. P.S i’m a huge fan ;) I love your vids!
<3
Thanks for the love and support!
xx Max Ryder
What a well thought out, well balanced guy you are Max, I have of course seen most of your movies and a fan, Certainly though, think many people are way too quick to judge and condemn, The guy, whoever it may be, who becomes your boyfriend, will be a very luck guy, You have my full support, and even more respect,with love from the Uk x x
Thank’s for the support x
Max,
I totally agree with all that you said. I don’t think that I can add anything that others have already said. I have met a few porn stars, Turk Mason, Pierre Fitch, Ralph Woods, Eddie Stone, and others, and I just find them to be very interesting and totally REAL people. Yes, some can be stuck on themselves and so forth but for the most part that is not the case. Thanks for your candidness and being REAL! I just received my first DVD with you in it. It was Project GOGO Boy! GREAT job! I really look forward to your work with Bel Ami being released on DVD. HUGE HUG for ya pal and my hope for you is that you find love, joy, peace, health, happiness, and prosperity in all your future endeavors.
Dave Whitaker
Michigan
Max, I had never seen this before, thanks for tweeting it again (1/2013). I have to say that I honestly don’t get the casualness with which some (many) people say crude or disrespectful or mean-spirited things to you boys on Twitter. For me there is no shame in your profession – the only shame would be in using people or abusing yourself or others in the name of entertainment. I don’t see that with Cockyboys or with you personally. So….what I want to say to you as someone who has lived on this earth quite a while – if it’s hard to find a BF that can accept the work (and it is WORK after all, isn’t it?) it means that it’s hard to find someone open-minded and nonjudgmental. That’s all. They are out there, and they are rare, and perhaps your doing porn for a living in some way allows you to weed out the losers. Know what I mean? Chin up. You’re beautiful. xxx
And that’s why I love Twitter and this blog, we realize, that you (all) aren’t only hot piece of meal on our screens, but also real people and usually very good and kind. Good luck Max! ♥
Maxxie, if only you were here right now, as in my bed next to me. Just know you’re always welcome. Gosh I’d accept you even if you were a serial killer.
Xx
you’re super cute! Are you DUTCH?
xx
i really love you and respect your job, I mean I don’t understand how others may think it’s bullshit, I guess that is not always easy to make some scenes, I really think you are very good and sexy and a SEX BOMB!
kisses form Italy, may you come one day? please I’d kill to see you in person ♥